Homeschool Perfectionism

As a perfectionist is tempting. You know, do the “dot the i you cross your t’s,” to leave unanswered all the elements to do what it takes as long as it takes things like this. It usually takes a long time. By “perfect” in this way, your students have completed almost any unpleasant conversations before they start. Finally, how can the extreme lengths he goes to make things right, to be indicted?

Bren as Brown put it: “Perfectionism is the belief that if we can create a perfect, perfect looks, perfect acting life, reduce or avoid us the pain of guilt, shame, and freedom of expression.” In the past I have told not apply, according to home-school students, after all, grew up in a time integrated setting (the family) has accepted peer dependency and need not be present in practice. I was wrong.

I can also, here, but it seems that the perfectionism in no way be used as a barrier to criticism from others (parents or peer norms), or even of themselves (their standards). If our children ever to us or get in terms of performance, life becomes a grind. And most perfectionists are not very fun to be together.

The things that make it unbearable to homeschooling attractive. Think about it.

- You can use the student curriculum, his or her needs, but the idea of ​​the adjustment results in too many books that your child “needs” that you never get through.

- I can not tell you how many books I bought for my children who have never been used. Actually, I’ve even bought some books twice without knowing that I purchase for months.

- Learning to real life moments are related, but the learning never. You and your students may find yourself “in school,” 24-7.

- It may be weird and embarrassing as any trip to the store to see as a possible encounter at home or at school consumer math problem. I knew that everything over the edge for me, asking where, after parking in the city of Portland and ran several blocks to the beginning of a movie, one of my children, whether they include the period of “running” make could be in direction of their times PE courses.

You know your child better than anyone else and is therefore the ideal teacher. But if we do not know, “is that we carry, your child will always wonder whether it as the” speaking parents “or” teacher. “Relationships can be difficult, the older children.

There is a point where the separation from your baby is with you it is absolutely necessary for him or they just grow. If, when your children leave your room, you find yourself constantly asking, “You have to do math problem, right?” It’s time to rethink things.

So, what can I say? I say it is a part of us that we want to relate to ourselves and others through performance. Be taken to an extreme, home schooling is geared to the power disrupted and difficult. If everything I need to do is to get to borders (or in the case of the “perfectionist” time pressure, if you’re not in the past 15:00 Do work) say set, I doubt that would be useful. Using various methods, change is not necessarily their root issues.